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New Year’s Resolutions Aren’t For Me

Welcome to 2011! Along with novelty- themed parties, and drunken singing of Auld Lang Syne, this is a time of year that is marked by an idea of renewal, growth, and rebirth; and with that comes resolutions. New beginnings means new actions, right? Time to start over, and do things right.

While I have nothing against the idea of self-improvement, picking New Year’s seems like the dumbest time to do it. For one, the day is completely arbitrary. There is nothing about the Gregorian calendar that makes you have extra-special powers of change-ness. Better to pick a day that has some significance: pick a day that is close to what kind of resolution you have. If your resolution is to spend more time with the family, then choose an anniversary of some sort. If your resolution is to learn something, than the start of school makes a good time. If your resolution is to be more involved in your community, election day’s a good time to try that. You pick a day that has some pretty powerful attachments to the idea that you are trying to improve upon. New Year’s, on the other hand, is something that people forget about until they awaken around the 27th from their post-Christmas gluttony coma.

The second objection I have against them is that they are generally a result of social pressure. We come up with a resolution because someone’s going to ask what your New Year’s Resolution is going to be. While this can be a good thing, and I understand the value of social reinforcement, if there isn’t an internal drive to improve, no amount of social censure is going to suffice. Additionally, as most can attest, that drive to improve oneself tends to taper off in about three weeks are so, and the social censure even earlier. There’s a reason that we have the same New Year’s resolutions year after year: we generally have reasons (if not great reasons) why we do what we do. For a funnier explanation, I refer to this particular cracked list.

Finally, the third objection I have to them is a matter of practicality. The things that top out New Year’s Resolutions are pretty standard: lose weight, save money, spend more time with families, get organized, and quit smoking. These are resolutions because for most people it is impractical if not flat out impossible to change these things. For the first I shall direct you to the brilliant writer over at Shapely Prose. For the last, I shall assume people know why addictions are near to impossible to give up, but in case you don’t, let me direct you to some interesting research by Malcolm Gladwell. So, let’s just focus on the middle resolutions: saving money, spending more time with the family, and getting organized.

The first reason that these resolutions are impractical to impossible is because they near directly contradict each other. The best way to save money is to make more money without adjusting spending habits, and generally the only way people have to make more money is to work more hours. Organization is a skill, and like any skill you need some natural talent and then time honing that ability. Spending time with family is an exponential amount of time, not a direct one, because in a modern family it will take time to coordinate with schedules and, if the reason you aren’t spending much time with them in the first place is because they drive you bonkers, mental clearing time after words. All of these require time, time, and energy. If people had a ton of this lying around, then they would already have started to accomplish this before. People don’t generally decide to waste money (assuming they can accurately gauge what constitutes “waste” which is a lot harder than people think considering how susceptible to advertising we are and how much advertising there is), don’t generally avoid spending time with people they like spending time with, and aren’t slobs for the hell of it.

The second reason these resolutions are impractical is because the advice given on it is either narrowly tailored to a specific group of people, or is just in general crap. Take, for a great example, saving money. A quick google of “how to save money” sends me to debtguru.com, but the advice is similar to anything that anyone would say. The “11 Money-Making Strategies” tend to be things a) people are already doing (brown bagging it, purchasing generic, taking public transit), laughably impossible (pay yourself first, quit using credit cards, have a two-month emergency fund) or not going to add up to any significant amount. The advice all assumes you are a middle-class person with lots of free time. If you’re not, the advice is worse than useless.

And, now to contradict almost everything I just said, I ask you “What was your New Year Resolution?” For myself, I do not make them. But my birthday resolution was to read a non-fiction book every two weeks, which I have had a fairly good time keeping up with.

4 Responses to “New Year’s Resolutions Aren’t For Me”

  1. Jennifer says:

    What books have you read?

  2. Antigone says:

    Oh, a whole ton. A lot of them have been practical- “Sewing for Plus Sizes”, “Simple Gifts”, one about jean-sewing products, “Beading for Dummies” “Covert Persuasion” “How to Draw Dragons”. Then some are sort of semi-fictional, like “Sophie’s World” but I feel counted because it was a history of philosophy. Then there’s been “The Tipping Point”, “Terror Dreams” and I got a whole 3 chapters into “Think!” before I went “Urg, enough libertarian to last my whole life”. Right now, I have “A People’s History of the United States” “Rapture for the Geeks” “Bushido” and the “Web That Has No Weaver” to get through.

  3. darkdaughta says:

    I think mine was to get more comfortable with being flawed, contradictory and multi-layered and to find folks who feel comfortable with this because they are either also seeking it in themselves or because they have located it and are in the process of getting really comfy with it.

  4. delagar says:

    Antigone, have you read Coal: A Human History?

    You might not like it as much as I did, since you’re more sciencey than I am (you are, right?) and the science is science-made-simple; but I loved it.

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